Losing a pet can be one of the hardest experiences in a child’s life.

Here are some thoughtful, research-backed ways to support your child through this difficult time.

Two years ago, in the grey chill of November, I lost my soul-dog, Ikaroa. Losing her right before the holiday season felt like a cruel joke. The world was hanging tinsel and blasting Mariah Carey, and I was barely remembering to breathe.

Whether you lost your baby yesterday, last month, or five years ago, the holidays have a way of tearing the scab right off the wound. And I’m here to tell you something that maybe you haven’t heard enough: You are allowed to be sad.